How to Communicate with Your Surrogate

For fostering a good relationship with a surrogate, communication needs to be strong. It can be through emails, phone calls, even video calling, but you need to be in regular touch with the surrogate. Communication would ease the tension and also help both surrogate and intended parents to understand each other’s concerns. For establishing a good communication, you need to be direct and allow each other to open up.

Intended parents should encourage weekly exchange of emails or texts to know about each other’s well being. Regardless of how often you and your surrogate talk during the pregnancy, it is suggested that intended parents should increase communication before the birth of child. It is recommended that during the surrogate’s pregnancy, talking and exchange of ideas should be ensured. It will help to safeguard everyone’s expectations.

What Should the Intended Parents Talk?

1. Ask about surrogate’s well being

2. Ask if she needs anything

3. Ask if she is willing to pump breast milk

4. Talk about your relationship with surrogate after birth of child

Staying connected after the baby is born is also an important part of the surrogacy journey. At Pahlajani Surrogacy Care, we ensure that intended parents and their surrogates develop strong ties. The friendship between the recipient mother and surrogate even continues after she delivers your baby. 

We encourage intended parents and surrogates to discuss about the baby to eliminate confusion and the potential for disappointment. Communication helps the surrogate to keep that strength and helps intended parents to know about the journey of their child inside surrogate’s womb. A lack of effective communication can often lead to misunderstandings, in turn leading to feelings of dishonesty or distrust. 

Maintaining open and steady communication between the agency and the intended parents enables each party to feel more comfortable and at ease 

during the process.

It is important for the intended parents to identify how involved they want to be during and after the pregnancy.  With that in mind, it is essential that the needs of the intended parents be matched with those of the surrogate.  Most couples prefer an open relationship with their surrogate

Dr Neeraj Pahlajani