A surrogate mother
should be looked upon as person who is helping you bring a new life to earth,
you child. . A surrogate and her family carry great respect for their
intended parents and typically begin their long term relationship with high
regard. Rather than considering surrogacy as purely a business arrangement, intended
parents should try to build a relationship with the surrogate to make her
journey beautiful. It represents an all-encompassing personal commitment on
behalf of the fulfillment of one’s highest goals and family ideals.
Remember
your surrogate mother is in want of nothing
more than to make you, the intended parent, happy and feeling good and secure
about the choice they made in contracting with her to carry your baby.
The process of choosing surrogacy as a family building
option as well as selecting and psychologically evaluating a surrogatecarrier are critical items that we know have come before in this process. The
couple has major considerations that the surrogate ought to understand and
value. Increasing the understanding on both sides is the single most
effective approach to work together with a strong level of success and
satisfaction. Honest, consistent communication is necessary as the basis for a
successful relationship. A surrogacy arrangement is a financially
huge commitment. Even so, it is important throughout the relationship, to
show acts of kindness and thoughtfulness.
When you select a gestational surrogate to carry a baby on
your behalf you are going to be forging a lifetime relationship. It’s important
for you to think about the type of personal involvement you visualize with your
surrogate mother – during the IVF cycle,
throughout the pregnancy and of course after your baby is born and as your
child grows older.
Sometimes, in this process is an understanding of the key emotional
elements, intended parents overlooks the importance of a satisfying and
positive surrogacy relationship. The emotional commitment and willingness
to accommodate to these important understandings are vital to the success ofthe surrogacy arrangement. Therefore, they need to be addressed and
reviewed at the very beginning of the decision making process when the
expectations for the arrangement are being considered.
Exploring the long-term implications of surrogacy for each
partner in the relationship and coming together on a decision to work together
is the most important step. Try to video chat with your surrogate to make
her feel your concerns. Bring her a small gift, hug her, and send her a card.
Let her know how appreciative of her you are. Its super important you are
compatible with her and feel comfortable exchanging information and communicating
with her.
Show your support. There is a lot of trust that goes into
this process. You have to trust her regarding what she eats, how much she
sleeps, her overall health, her ability to make her OB appointments and other
medical testing that goes with pregnancy.
Respect the surrogate carrier’s schedule when planning
medical appointments. Allow the carrier private time with the physician at
a medical appointment. Remember that the woman carrying the pregnancy does so
with the entire family supporting her commitment. Show trust that the surrogate
carrier can make good choices regarding the pregnancy and consult with her when
possible regarding ongoing decision making.
There would be no better way to build a successful
relationship than to be attentive in this way. Kindness and thoughtfulness can
be shown in small ways which carry meaningful feelings.
Dr Neeraj Pahlajani
Obstetrician & IVF Specialist
(MS, DNB, FMAS, DRM - Germany)
MBBS - Lady Harding Medical College - New Delhi
MS - Obstetrics and Gynecology (PGI - Rohtak)
DNB - Obstetrics and Gynecology
FMAS - World Association of Laparoscopic Surgeons
DRM - Diploma in Reproductive Medicine (Germany)
Fellow in IVF & Embryology – (USA)
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